Does Made In Chelsea Promote Toxic Relationships?

Made In Chelsea. The show I love to hate...

Last weekend I was feeling absolutely knackered, so decided to binge on a show that I haven’t watched since my late teens. I was catching up on old episodes (we’re talking series 10/11) of Made in Chelsea.

As I watched, I started to remember why I’d stopped watching.

In case you're unaware, Made in Chelsea is a reality show based in, you guessed it, Chelsea, where we see the lives of young socialites living it up in capital (or occasionally a luxury hot destination - v. jealous) and all the drama that comes with it.

As I sat there wrapped in up in a duvet watching too many episodes than I'd like to admit, I realised that the whole show centres around drama. It's just argument after argument.

The storylines are always based on one of the following: either a friendship group is on the verge of breaking up thanks to a comment said behind someone's back, or a missed party invite. Let's be clear, there are worse things to worry about in the world than not getting invited to a party.

The other thing is relationships. It seems like everyone and their best friend's mother sticks their nose in (Hint: Don't, it's none of your business), there's cheating left, right and centre, or there's being made to feel like utter shit for going out with your friends on a night out instead of staying in with your significant other. Newsflash people, going out to a social event without your boyfriend/girlfriend is not a crime. Don't even get me started on the scenarios where one party in the relationship is guilt tripping the other into picking them or their friends. Not on!

Anyway, yes, I know that this is a reality TV show so of course, it's going to be dramatic, the situations are often set up and made into an elaborate string of dialogue as we switch between various cliques talking about each other behind each other's back. But it's all too easy to get swept up in this Instagram worthy world, coated in an all too perfect filter oozing in aesthetic.

The more I watched, the more I wondered how watching this show regularly might skew my view of the world, and make me treat my own friendships and relationship differently.

The show manages to create a very toxic atmosphere, and yet portray it as normal. It becomes normal to bitch on your bestie. It becomes normal to stick with a manipulative boyfriend, it becomes normal to create drama over absolutely everything!

That and the fact I also sat for a long while contemplating why my current daily routine doesn't involve going for elevensies every day and having fancy tea and cake.

What I think I'm trying to say is, often in this Instagram orientated world, it can be hard to see the difference between what's real and what's not. We're surrounded by this vision of supposed perfection online, not seeing the truth, and Made In Chelsea is an example of a somewhat toxic lifestyle, glamourised and made to look like #goals for us all to drool over.

Don't get me wrong, I love a reality TV show and can't quite tear myself away from watching at the moment, but remember to take what you watch and see online with a pinch of salt.

Pillow Talk #12

Good evening my loves!

Welcome back to my "weekly" Pillow Talk post. Real talk, I love these posts but am half considering making them fortnightly. We'll see how it goes...

The last couple of weeks have been manic. I've been so busy and feel like I've forgotten what it's like to have 8 hours of continuous sleep. Weekdays are flying by, we're already a week into April, and I don't know whether I'm coming or going. The bank holiday weekend? That already feels like forever ago. Oh, how I'd long to have a four day weekend every week!

Cutting to the chase, I don't like this being so busy I'm permanently exhausted malarkey. It's not healthy and I'm going to end up slipping up on responsibilities or being grumpy and miserable or worse, both. But what's made me so busy? A bit of a shakeup in my evening routines.

Let me explain. I blog in my free time, except, I don't. The thing is, I usually leave blogging until I'm at home sat at my desk. I occasionally write on the go when I'm cruising the underground, but for the most part, I'd dedicate two evenings per week to blogging. However, this often doesn't work out so well. There are distractions, like a comfy sofa, YouTube, Netflix, video games, chatting with my friends. Meaning writing a blog which should take an hour or so max (to write the content, not including editing, photography, and scheduling) can take more like three. Or not get finished at all! So... what I've started doing is scheduling one to two evenings per week in my bullet journal where I will go and visit a coffee shop. I'm trying to go to a different one each time, and as long as they serve peppermint tea I'm happy. I then set myself a limit of 1 hour there to blog & get photos edited, or admin completed before popping off home. This, touch wood, seems to be working! I'm getting posts written much quicker and have more time to perfect them. It seems to be a winning combo right now.

That's making me busy at least two evenings per week, and I'm also trying to head to the gym three times a week. Twice during weekdays and once at the weekend. I'm at a point right now where I'm actively enjoying the gym, and although tiring, I can feel and see the benefits. I would advise you not to do a load of deadlifts a day before having to stand at a concert for three hours though...

All of this is an effort to free up my weekends so I can properly switch off and have some down time doing whatever I like, without the feeling of guilt looming over me because I'm behind on a post. I think the shakeup is only feeling so tiring at the moment because I'm not used to it. I'll update you in a few weeks on how I feel then.

How do you balance blogging, a full-time job, and a social life? Tips, please!

In addition to this, I've also been fitting in social events and consuming some uh-maz-ing blog posts (more on that in a bit). This week I went to see MO in concert at Brixton Academy, she was super and made me feel all the love for pop/electronic music again. I've been swaying a lot towards indie rock recently but some change is in order!

Let get onto some blog posts I've been loving, shall we?

Advice For Bloggers Who Work Full Time | Style Rarebit

This kind of fits in with what I've touched on above, getting a schedule together is really helping me balance a full-time job and blogging. I really need to work on building a bank of photos to use for future posts though!

HDL Aligners | My Experience of Clear Braces | Mapped Out

Hands up who had a brace as a teen but didn't wear their retainer? Ha, that would be me. For the last couple of years I've been eyeing up orthodontic treatment to return my teeth to how they once were, and if Georgia's experience is anything to go by, this might be the way forward for me!

At The Bank - Conversations With Anxiety #06 | Alys Journals

Sometimes I feel like a bit of a melon trying to explain my anxiety to people, especially in scenarios that others might not even bat an eyelid at. This post from Alys is like exactly how I feel, specifically the bit about trying to not look weird and not knowing where to look!

Fake Followers, Likes and Copying. You're Ruining This Industry | Lauren Black

Somebody needed to say it, and Lauren sure did hit the nail on the head. Fakes, be gone! Seriously, it drives me mad when you see people working so hard in this industry only for others to cheat their way through it. Where's the enjoyment and satisfaction in that?

at what point do you start calling blogging your work? | Yasmin Stefanie

Real talk, Yasmin you're like my fave blogger at the moment. Keep it up gal I love your content! This is a post that I feel all us bloggers can relate too. Sometimes I'll say to my friends that I'm blogging and they just don't get it. They think that means sitting on Instagram or mindlessly writing things on the internet. Oh no my friend, there's so much more. And you know what, blogging, whether it's your weekend hobby, side hustle, or full-time job, you can love it and still call it work.

That, my friends, is where I'm going to love you and leave you for today. Please do check out the blog posts I mentioned, and just in case you missed it, do have a look at my bullet journal post from earlier in the week. I'm v. proud of it. Enjoy the rest of your Sunday x

Inside My Bullet Journal | Feb - Mar

Hey guys and galz. I'm really excited to share this post with you today. I spent a sweet time on these photos over the Easter holiday so I hope you enjoy them as much as I do! 

I thought it was time for a little bullet journal update. You might remember back in January I updated you on how I was taking a bit more of a minimalist approach to my journal this year. I needed it to be functional and not distract me too much from other tasks. In January I found a concrete weekly layout that I worked very well for me, and that continued through February. In March I tried to switch things up a bit. Here's how it's been going: 

February front cover in my bullet journal

Now, I did give you all a sneaky preview of my cover for February in my last post, but it's just too pretty not to feature again. I love how minimalist this page is. I really like having the dots in the background, and the calligraphy centred in the middle. Yes, okay, it kind of looks like I've spelled February wrong, but blame my penmanship skills!

February Monthly Spread & Budget TrackerWhat you might not have seen, (unless you follow me on Insta @rawrrbecca) is my monthly spread for February - which I adored! February is my birthday month so I thought yolo let me trace this fabulous unicorn here because it's pretty. I really like this geometric art style. I gave myself a pat on the back for the 'feb' open calligraphy too. As you can see, the calendar itself is very basic. I like the fact it's only got horizontal lines to break up the weeks, I think it looks very clean. I thought about adding goals or a to-do list to the spread like I did in January, but decided against it. February is always a hectic month for me and I didn't want to put any extra pressure on myself. 

This was the month I finally seemed to get to grips with a budget tracker. I was inspired by Amanda Rach Lee (who btw, is a bullet journal goddess, literal goals) from a video she did for students. You can watch the segment on her budget tracker here. I've adapted it a little to suit my needs (I also use an app to keep me in check throughout the month - post on that soon) but I really enjoyed seeing my expenses written down, and using colours to quickly identify which areas I was overspending in. Unfortunately, I went a little over budget back in Feb, but I set this right by the end of March! 

Two of my weekly spreads from February
As I mentioned earlier, throughout February I used the same weekly spreads as I had throughout January. I love the layout because they're simple and quick to draw and make it so easy to see what's going on that week. I had a lot going on in February and was super stressed out with a few things, which I think is why I didn't try any other weekly spreads at the time. Didn't make for good blog content but it did keep me sane for those few weeks! I think that this will be my default weekly spread. If I'm feeling uninspired or know that I'm going to be super busy, this layout will make an appearance! 

March Front CoverHere's my March cover photo. I'm not in love with it but it's different to anything I've done before so I like it in that respect. I felt a little bit lost at the start of the month in regards to whether I should have any kind of theme to the month. March is typically the time of year where I ditch the jumpers, whip out my denim jacket and start asking Jim to come on strolls around the park with me. This March was different though, we had a week of heavy snow to start with, and then two weeks in, even more snow! Don't get me wrong, I like a bit of snow but not at the end of what feels like an eternal winter. 

To counteract this blue feeling, I started the month with a different kind of monthly spread than I am used to. I penciled out a grid to start with, then went in and drew some different plant life to act as the dividers between days of the week. I left the pencil lines because I liked how it looked. It was a little more decoration than I'd had for a while but I liked it. My choice of plants did make events happening on Wednesdays and Thursdays a slight struggle to fit in, but I like it none-the-less. 

I followed this monthly spread with a budget tracker, exactly the same as February, and was very pleased that despite a bit of overspending here and there, I'd underspent in other areas so came in on budget. My savings account will be happy. 

Woah, you made it through the big one! I had more fun that I probably should have putting that little bullet journal collage thang together. Due to reasons I'm not really sure of, I actually missed a week towards the beginning of March, but carried on the following week like nothing had happened. I wasn't until I was taking photos I actually realised! After keeping it very samey in Feb, I decided it was time for a switch up. I'd been traipsing through Pinterest and Instagram looking at various spreads and came up with the following. 

Week Eleven

I really really like this spread as it took me a grand total of five mins to draw out. I didn't use a ruler (I might have to divide the page, but didn't draw with it) and like the little bit of decoration in the corner. I enjoyed this weekly spread because it still gave me a lot of room each day to write whatever I needed too, plus I had room for notes/a plan for the following week. I did miss having a mini monthly calendar though. I definitely could have added this, I just didn't think of it until it was too late! 

Week Twelve

I'm still undecided about how I feel when I look at this page. The vertical lines were a bit of a throwback to my cover page, and I liked the minimalist look, but it just didn't grab me. It worked but I'm not crazy about it. Thoughts? 

Week Thirteen

The week I loved! Now, not to be dramatic here but I used a considerable amount of colour on this week compared to the rest of my bullet journal. I liked it a lot though, and will definitely be giving this spread another go sometime! I love this spread because it's rough and ready. Again, no rulers were used, you can tell by the face the boxes at the bottom are slightly smaller, oops. I really liked the way each section was separated, I really like the colour. I really liked all of it. 

It's got everything I want! A notes section, a bit for things happening the following week, room for a motivational quote! Plus each day has its own section. #loveit. 

Do you like my cheeky lil behind the scenes shot? That's where the photography magic happens! Yep. It's not a real floor! 

That brings my March pages to an end, meaning it's time for one thing... my April cover! What do you think? I really like the letters individually but don't think I've got the spacing quite right. I think I'd like to add something to this page before the end of the month. It's just not sitting right with me so far. I might try and do something a little similar to February. 

What I am loving is my monthly spread and first weekly spread for April. I am very happy with them, but you're going to have to wait a little longer to see them! If you're lucky you might be able to spot them on my Instagram. 

If you made it this far, thanks so much for sticking around! I have spent a lot of hours on this post. I really love bullet journaling and wanted to make this a little bit extra special to show that! 

Thanks for popping by!