Pillow Talk #4

I'm going to keep it short this week because I don't know if you've noticed, but it's Christmas Eve!

This week has flown by in a flash, I've eaten multiple Christmas dinners, had lots of fun at my work Christmas party, squeezed in some last minute shopping aaaaand relived my childhood by playing The Sims 3.

Life is good.

Since everything's been so hectic, I've been reading less and listening more, turning my attention to a few more podcasts than usual on my way home from work to keep me awake and make me feel somewhat productive during this end of year slump.

To begin, if you haven't heard of Ctrl Alt Delete, where have you been? Ctrl Alt Delete is a podcast hosted by the lovely Emma Gannon. Each episode features a different guest and covers topics such as careers, feminism, writing, and just life in general. I am totally that girl who can't just listen to the most recent episode, instead, I have to go back through the archives and listen in order. This week I listened to the episodes with Cherry Healy where she actually interviews Emma. It's full of laughs and this made me feel super motivated to keep working away on this little blog of mine come the new year.

I've also been delving through the archives of Sara Tasker's Hashtag Authentic podcast, primarily focusing on Instagram and how you can get the most out of your profile and creative efforts. I listened to an episode this week with Hannah Argyle all about being a pro-instagrammer and remembering no matter how tempting an offer maybe if it's not you, don't go with it. This is in relation to brand opportunities, bare in mind. (On that note - Chloe from The Little Plum wrote a post this week on saying goodbye to YouTube because it's just not her. Fantastic read.)

Although this is something I haven't actually dipped my toes into yet, it is something I'm going to remember for future reference. I'd recommend Sara's podcast if you need some Instagram inspo!

Usually Pillow Talk is quite a lot longer than this post, however, I'm going to keep it short and sweet today as a) It's Christmas Eve and I want to enjoy the day with my friends and fam (plus I've got some last minute presents to wrap) and b) I've written a couple of chunky posts lately which I'd like to point you in the direction of...

In last week's Pillow Talk I went into a lot of detail about internet trolls and the abuse creators are facing online. This is a topic which really gets me thinking and I'd love to hear your thoughts about it, as well as the effects it is having on the younger generation. I also published a meaty post on Friday about why I document so much of my life - this is actually part 1 of 2, as I'm going to expand on it further in the next week or so. I'd love to hear your thoughts on this and whether taking photos and filming much of your life is good, or do you think it stops you living in the moment?

Let me know in the comments or tweet me @beccasocial.

That's honestly about it for the last week. This week I'm going to be making the most of my week off work by enjoying time with my friends, setting up my new bullet journal, and playing sims every night for way too many hours.

On that note, I'd like to wish you a very Merry Christmas!

Why Do We Document So Much? Pt 1

Over the last couple of weeks, I’ve been having a long in-depth think about documenting experiences. By this, I specifically mean our current fascination with taking photos of everything, selfies at every opportunity, and the rise of vloggers filming their daily lives.

I think my recent video I made following my trip to Budapest prompted this train of thought, as I know that whilst I was there I was often conscious of getting photos and short bits of video to look at then I got home, and then share online.

We live in a world where it has become normal to share just about anything on social media, whether that be what you’ve had for lunch, an engagement, your holidays, pretty much everything ends up online now.

Let’s start with why I document things:

Ever since I first held a camera I’ve been obsessed with taking photos. When I was roughly 9 years old I borrowed my Mum's camera and went around my whole house and garden taking photos of everything from the kitchen sink to intricate details on our hall wallpaper. Why? Who knows, my friend’s Mum thought it was hilarious at the time and joked to my own Mum whether I was secretly uploading all these photos to an estate agents site to sell the house. Mega Lolz.

On my 10th birthday I was given my very own digital camera, and it quickly became my prized possession.

From that point on me and my bezzie mate would take photos of ourselves at any given opportunity and would fill up my (back then very tiny) memory card in a flash. Resulting in some fabulously embarrassing old photo albums tucked away somewhere on our family PC.

Fast forward few years to year 11 - I was still using that trusty camera - and started taking photos of my friends as we began having a bit more of a grown-up up social life. By this I mean hanging out drinking Schler thinking we were the bees knees, and then uploading them to Facebook, much to the delight of my friends. Soz. I very much became the girl with the camera, and to this day I'm always the one to whip out a selfie stick taking snaps at parties and such - so much so this year on a trip to Lisbon my nickname actually became Lenses for the week. Not complaining!

Where does this obsession to take photos come from?

One of the main reasons I take photos so much, especially of me and my mates, is because I'm scared of forgetting good times. I'm a very sentimental person capturing times where I'm having fun is extremely important to me.

Only the other day I was going through my old albums with one of my oldest friends reminiscing about how our friendship group from secondary school where we would spend many an hour mucking about in one of our back gardens, eating toxic waste (the sour sweets) and trying to teach ourselves how to do handstands. That was the life I tell you. Gals if you're reading, I've got this on video. Hit me up if you wanna see it and laugh your socks off.

I also have a bit of a fear which I’ve never really talked about before, of waking up one day to realise I’ve forgotten everything. I honestly think this is due to an episode of neighbours I watched many moons ago (and I’m talking like over a decade here) at my nan's house where Susan lost her memory after slipping over and bashing her head.

Okay, real talk, I just googled that storyline and it happened it 2002. Why do I remember a storyline from neighbours from 2002!?!

Sharing my stuff?

As I mentioned the other week, I got my Facebook account when I was about 15 so there’s been a never-ending stream of what I look like since then online. But it wasn’t until 2012/13 I started to actively share “content online” with more than just my friend's list.

P.S. I'm in a weird year where I sort of missed out on Bebo and MySpace and was a bit late to Facebook.

Around the age of 16, I'd sorted myself out with an Instagram account and a little while later started a YouTube channel. After a few failed attempts at filming stuff (any videos from then have long since been deleted) there was a period of time mid-2016 where I tried vlogging in my own little way. I wouldn’t talk to the camera as such because I find that cringe AF to watch back (only when I’m watching myself, not other creators) but it’s that didn’t last very long because it was such an effort to accumulate footage I wanted and then edit it. Yes, at the time a lot of that was down to me having a laptop from the dark ages, but I then felt like I was missing out on life when I edited later on. It's a vicious cycle.

God knows how people daily vlog like I salute you.

1 second every day and Live Photos:

However, late last year when I got my first iPhone I downloaded the app 1 Second Everyday and actively started using it as a way to document my days in short little bursts.

Real talk, (yes I use that phrase way too much) LivePhotos are the best bloody to thing to happen, ever! I ADORE how you can be snap, snapping away and have lots of mini-segments of video to go with it saved in your camera roll. Since they’ve been a thing I’ve made so many short gifs of funny moments with my friends AND have happily been putting together short videos, like my Budapest one, ever since!

Now I feel like I can take a couple of Live Photos, not feel like I’m not living in the moment, but still have a great document/memory prompt at the end of it.


That's where I want to draw things to a close to for today. Next week I want to look at some of the pros and cons of documenting things and specifically look at the implications for sharing our own creations online.

For now, I'd love to know how much you document things, whether it be for your own enjoyment or to share online - or both! Why do you do it and what prompted you to begin?

Pillow Talk #3

Good morning (or afternoon - totes didn't sleep in or anything)

The festive season is now in full swing and I'm definitely not nursing a slightly delicate head after a cheeky beverage or two over a Christmas dinner/party last night.

This weekend has been full of festive Spirit, I hung out with some of my faves on Friday night, then yesterday I had my first Christmas dinner (and too much wine) of the season with friends, and now today I'll be having another Christmas dinner. Another one!

Then I've got two more this week with work. I'll be sick of it come Christmas day!

This week has flown by (a little here about time flying) and I have been struggling a little to stay on top of reading all my favourite blogs. I've been busy fitting in Christmas shopping where I can (and of course an 'accidental' BooHoo order) as well tying up a bunch of loose ends which needed to be dealt with before the end of the year.

I also gave my hair a freshen up and got my nails done for the first time in like a year as an early present to my self. Priorities.

Sidenote: Does anyone have tips on going bowling and not ruining their nails? I'm going with work on Thursday and am low key scared of ruining them. I always end up breaking at least one nail (even when they're just bare, no fancy stuff) when I bowl and cannot be dealing with that just before Chrimbo when it's too much hassle to get fixed. 

What's the story then? What have I been loving?

Perhaps not loving as such, but giving a lot of thought and support to Lydia Millen. This week Lydia posted a distressing message on her Twitter account about the abuse and harassment she's been facing online and it just made me feel so upset and angry for her.

Online creators put their lives out there, sure, but that doesn't give people a right to tear them apart for every move they make or decide to share with you. Friendly reminder: creators choose what to share with you and it's up to them how much or how little they give away.

Why does this happen? What are these people getting out of it exactly? To read Lydia saying "I honestly don't know how to make this stop and it's destroying me" like, that's heartbreaking.

And it's a worrying trend I'm noticing too - in recent weeks there seems to be this surge in creators reaching breaking point because of hideous questions being thrown at them. Invasive questions with answers that are quite frankly none of our business.

It forced two of my fave chums to watch, Lily Melrose and Helen Anderson to each release a video in response to comments like that. I feel like it's wrong to link directly to their responses because why should they have to justify themselves? But you can go looking if you really want to.

Why does it have to be this way? Why does it feel like we've grown so entitled to stick our nose in where it doesn't belong, and where do we go from here?

Sophie Milner from Fashion Slave wrote a post on haters and trolls, and it sums up my thoughts on this issue perfectly. I particularly liked how she questioned what impact these trolls are having on the younger generation.

I remember being allowed to get Twitter at 14 years old, and then Facebook at 15, which was really late compared to a few of my friends but boy am I glad there's no evidence of me as a dorky 12-year-old, pre-braces floating around online for all the world to see. I've never really had a bad experience online as such, but I remember around the age of 15 and 16 being very self-conscious and this was all magnified because I had Facebook. There was this immense pressure to get a good profile pic and see the likes rolling in, and if they didn't. Well, who were you? Not popular or pretty, obviously.

And that's continued to this day on other social media. Sure as a 21-year-old woman I've learned to not let it bother me and not care what people think, I'll rock whatever outfit I desire with messy hair and some smudgy eyeliner - but that's after 7 or 8 years of growing a thick skin.

So when I see my 14-year-old cousin living and breathing through Instagram, with the fashion sense of a model and the best makeup you have ever seen (I'm really annoyed I didn't have makeup tutorials to watch when I was younger) it really makes me wonder, how does she feel about it all? How is this affecting her confidence and the way she feels about herself.

She's grown up in a world where you're thrust up onto a pedestal from the get-go and you don't know any different.

Is that healthy? Probably not. But if you were a 14-year-old I don't think you'd feel inclined to live any other way, thanks to the normal pressures you face as a young teen, like fitting in and being 'cool'.


Sorry this got so deep so quickly, this seems to be a habit I'm making with Pillow Talk, but I guess it's been floating around my head this week. I'm going to leave it there and go listen to Taylor Swift to hype me up again and get ready Christmas Dinner #2 later this afternoon. Helloooooo food baby!

Have a wonderful Sunday, and I hope I've left you with some food for thought.

The Bigger Picture

Look up. I had no idea these trees had Christmas lights on until I looked back through my photos and found this accidental selfie on my phone. 
Hello friends,

I had the intention this week of writing a post all about our fascination with documenting our lives. It’s a subject that intrigues me and I want to delve into it a bit more. But in the lead up to the festive period, I’ve been getting distracted by the hustle and bustle of it all. That post will have to have its big moment another time.

I’m currently sat in one of my favourite places as of late, good old Caffè Nero, listening to a budding American comedian talking to a quiet Irish man, slightly older than her, about her craft. She's talking in depth about the presence of her peers when they perform on stage. They're smart. They're serious.

It's like a window to another world.

This alone got my attention as everything she was saying was a truly fascinating look from an outsiders perspective looking in. A whole new light shone on a world I'm not privy to.

But it was something else she said which really got me thinking.

When people are in the city, we all live inside our own heads. We’re all on our own mission, trying to achieve our work goals. We stop noticing the bigger picture.

When we’re in the countryside, we see everything through a completely different set of eyes. We learn what time it is, just by noticing where the shadows fall on the pavement and by the position of the sun in the sky. We look at the trees, we notice the leaves changing colour. We observe the seasons. We pay attention.

We learn to appreciate time passing and we learn to notice what's happening around us.

And this is how I feel right now. So often I find the days and weeks rushing past me. I’m constantly planning things in advance so I have a nice full calendar to look at in my bullet journal. But sometimes I forget to stop for a moment and take it all in.

It’s just over a week until Christmas and I’m still not completely sure it’s hit me that the festive season is in full swing.

I’ve always been the type of person to enjoy the lead up to Christmas almost more than the main event. I enjoy the anticipation, the excitement, that fuzzy feeling you get inside when you reconnect with friends you’ve not caught up with for a while.

And so I’m using this cold winter lunchtime tucked away in a coffee shop as a moment to reflect and see things from a different perspective.

As an early 2018 New Years resolution, I'd like to spend more time next year taking a step back and observing what’s going on around me. Get my head out of my phone (as I touched on in this week's Pillow Talk), and look up, and pay attention to the seasons changing. To time passing. To the bigger picture.

The End.

Pillow Talk #2

Mornz everyone!

Picture this, an Instagram worthy bed shot, complete with chunky woollen socks, perfect white bed sheets and a cuppa...

Oh, how I wish I could be spending my Sunday morning like this, but instead I'm sat here on tenterhooks waiting to pick Jim up from the airport. I've got an hour's drive ahead of me and I'm not looking forward to hitting traffic on the M25. Such fun.

Hopefully, you're having a more laid back morning than me. If you're new here, this is my weekly series, Pillow Talk, where I like to write down all the things I've been loving this week. Usually content I've found on the web which I think needs sharing.

Last week I wrote to you from snowy Budapest, an amazing weekend trip which you can read all about here. It's long but has pretty photos and had a fab video.

Letting go of the social meeds

Okay so let's have a show of hands, who here is addicted to their phone? I am and it makes me weep a little inside when I realise just how much of my time is spent gazing at the screen in the palm of my hand, and it seems I'm not the only one.

This week I stumbled across Helen Anderson's post on forgetting the phone, and this prompted me to really have a think about what I can do to get away from my phone. At the moment the thought of leaving the house without my phone makes me feel like an anxious mess, but it's something I want to do. Actually doing that is another story, but hey there's hope. I particularly like Helen's idea of having a phone bowl at social occasions - one to put into practice during the festive period, me thinks.

Following the same vibes, I saw Grace Victory's post on her 24-hour break from social media. It's about a month old but I was browsing the archives and it is well worth reading my friend. A 24-hour break sounds doable for me and got me thinking that I'd like to, perhaps as a new year's resolution, schedule one day per month where I go social media free. It's a bit difficult considering my job and fave hobby (blogging, duh) are so intertwined with social media, but I think it would be worth it. I crave the idea of having a clear head space and I think this would help a lot with it.

Have you taken a social media break? Any tips for an addict?

Friendships. It's complicated.

Does anyone else find friendship in your early twenties bloody difficult? I've touched on it briefly before, but Nicole's post on leaving certain types of 'friends' behind in 2017 summed it up so well. Annoyingly, I can think of people in my life which fit into the three categories Nicole mentions; the canceller, the me me me, and the one who never replies. It's a shame but a girl's gotta put herself first. If a friend is draining the life outta you or making you feel shit whenever you see them, LET THEM GO. They're not worthy of your company - and this is something I need to remind myself of in 2018.

Something a little more lighthearted...

I feel like we need to brighten things up around here, and so, I bring you Vix's 11 Sex Positions for Millennials. This post cracked me up and you need to read it now if you haven't already. A post of satirical sex positions, what more could you want on a Sunday morning?

Rock n Roll

I've been blasting my ears with soft rock this week and I think I might actually have nailed a playlist which includes all my faves, and I've used this handy tool to order tracks by how much energy they have. The result? Rockin tunes which gradually increase in hype. Sound like your kinda thing? Do help yourself and have a listen here.

Vlogs and blogs binge

One of my all-time fave creators is Jessie from sunbeamsjess. I adore her vlogging style, her fashion sense and just everything really. Lurveee it. Yesterday I spent way too much time than I'd like to admit watching some of her vlogtober vids (yes I'm really behind lol) and saw on Twitter that she's just launched her blog. Guess what? I love it! (Who'd have thought it?) The website itself is fabulous and it has Jess' personality written all over it. If you haven't seen it yet go check it out and prepare to be wowed. Her whole aesthetic is on point.

I think that's all for this week! I'm off to the airport now, once I'm home I think I'll be spending the rest of the day finding out how Jim's trip was and doing a spot of bullet journaling. If you follow me on Insta you'll see that a new journal arrived yesterday ready for the new year and I'm so excited to start setting it up!

Have a lovely Sunday ~

72 Hours in Budapest

Hello you lovely lot,

If you follow me on the ol' social meeds you've probably noticed that I have just been on a trip to Budapest. Totes haven't been going on about it at all. Nope!

This trip was a bit of a weird one as it was booked pretty spontaneously so even up to the point of getting on the plane it didn't feel like we were really going!

Arriving on Friday night, we hopped in a cab and tried to learn some lingo from our driver, and travelled to our Air Bnb which was the cutest. Set in the centre of the city, we'd rented a studio apartment with gorgeous almost floor to ceiling windows, a cosy living area and a lovely little spiral staircase up to a mezzanine over one side of the room where we slept. Lucy and I are not ashamed to say we acted out Rapunzle over the balcony.

We live a wild life, I know.

Anyway, we actually arrived pretty late on Friday night so we spent the rest of the evening looking through an array of leaflets and recommendations that were in the apartment (thank you Viktoria, these came in so handy!) and plotting all of the places we wanted to visit into Mapstr. (Great app btw, would recommend!)

Saturday came along and we woke up to blazing sunshine flooding the apartment. It was very aesthetic and we couldn't wait to set off. We took a walk through town, ate pretzels the size of our heads at a Christmas market and then decided to brave climbing up Gellért Hill to reach the famous Liberty Statue.

Elisabeth Bridge

We crossed over from Pest (the flat, trendy side of town) to Buda (much posher and mountainous) by walking over Elisabeth Bridge (Erzsébet híd). This takes you across the River Danube.

It was a walk and a half and I'm pretty sure halfway up the hill I lost feeling in my fingers because I kept taking my gloves off to film snippets on my phone. #firstworldproblems.

TLDR - This post is a long'un - don't say I didn't warn you. If you want the bite-sized version of events check out my video of 1-second snippets:

When we reached the top of Gellért Hill (more like a mini mountain ngl) it was just before sunset and the views were beautiful. We could see the whole of Budapest and the lighting was stunning. I couldn't stop taking photos and looking around in awe.

The view of Liberty Statue from Gellert Hill

To give you a little insight into what Liberty Statue is all about, so if you plan on visiting you can be informed (I was most definitely not), the statue was built in 1947 after World War II. It's to remember the liberation of Hungary and to remember those who sacrificed their lives for independence and freedom.

After taking as many photos as possible we decided to start walking back down and make our way to Buda Castle. On our way, we came across a few Christmas market stalls dotted around the place and one was selling hot apple cider. Now friends, if you're visiting Budapest in the winter, make sure you buy some of this! It was like drinking apple crumble and helped bring my frozen fingers back to life.

Budapest Skyline at Night

At this point, we lost the sun but took a walk to the castle anyway. By the time we arrived it was actually freezing. I've been to Iceland before a few years ago so thought I knew cold, but this was SO COLD. I think it didn't help we'd been outside nearly all day, and so after getting a few night time snaps (hella worth, the city is so pretty all lit up) we retreated back to our flat to warm up for a bit.

Once we'd defrosted, Lucy and I popped back into town and played it safe with the Hard Rock Cafe. Perhaps not very Hungarian but hey, we wanted food asap and were saving the Hungarian cuisine until Sunday.

Lucy and I at Hard Rock Cafe

After stuffing our faces and perhaps having one cocktail too many (oops) we went for a scenic walk through town where we took in the sights. Everything is very pretty at night in Budapest all lit up, especially at Christmas time. It all feels very festive and you'll be reaching for your camera constantly.

Once we made it back to the flat, we popped open a couple of ciders we'd bought earlier in the day (from a Tesco's would you believe!) and rocked out to MTV on the TV. Music channels were the only thing not in Hungarian so we stuck to them. It was that or BBC News which was a little too depressing for a holiday.

I'm well aware that this post is mighty long and boy did I not mean for it to end up like this, but I feel like I need to do each part of the trip justice!

Sunday Funday. We had a blast on Sunday and I think it was my favourite day of the two full days we were in Budapest. We woke up to snow! Not crazy amounts but this was very exciting. After publishing a post on Sunday morning (catch up here, it's a good'un) we set off for the castle again. This time we'd wrapped up extra warm, (we wore tights under our jeans - I couldn't feel my legs lol) and began.

This time we took a different route through town, walking along the riverfront and crossing over Chain Bridge (Széchenyi lánchíd) where we got a lot of great snaps of surrounding buildings. Once we reached the base of Castle Hill, we had two choices. Either walk or hop on Buda Hill Funicular. This is a type of train which goes up and down steep hills. It's pretty sick, but there was a long queue so we opted to walk.

Funicular in Budapest near the Castle

Honestly, if you've never been on a funicular before, try it, but the walk really didn't take that long and was much quicker than the walk up to the Liberty Statue on Saturday. That really was a hike.

When you get to the top, it's really magical. The castle itself is huge - although it doesn't look like the castles we have in the UK, it's amazing to look at and admire. The views from the city up there are amazing and you must stop and take a breather whilst looking around. It's so, so, so worth the walk.

After admiring the view, we went back down to the base of the hill and then started off a lot of steps in the direction of Fishermen's Bastion (Halászbástya). With hindsight, I think there is a way to walk across between the two without going up and down in between, but yolo we got so many Fitbit steps.

Fisherman's Bastion, Budapest

To me, it looked like we were entering Hogwarts and was truly beautiful. The stones were all so white and everything looked uh-maz-ing. This was probably my favourite place we visited just because the detail in all the architecture was mindblowing. This again is another place where you need to stop and get loads of photos of the city. You can get really good views of Parliment from here and I'm sure if you went in the evening everything would look even more magical.

Matthias Church in the (light) snow

This is also the location of Matthias Church (Mátyás-templom), a Roman Catholic church which is quite simply, stunning. Seriously if you like architecture this is the place to visit.

Once we'd filled up our cameras with lots and lots of photos, we went in search of food. We were freezing again and wanted to gorge on food and hot chocolate.

And we found the perfect place.

Our Beef Goulash at Ramazuri Bistronomy

Ramazuri Bistronomy is just down the road (literally) from Matthias Church and it feels a bit strange because it's so, so quiet outside, then you walk in and it's full of hustle and bustle, delicious smells and most importantly, it's warm and cosy. We ordered a hot chocolate #obvs, and the Beef Goulash which was just what we needed. It was real comfort food and my goodness did it hit the spot. I probably could have eaten two bowls of the stuff it was so good. I'd really recommend visiting here if you've been out in the cold for a few hours.

Nearly there, you've neeeeeearly reached the end.

As we were, after warming up we walked back into Pest, and after a little confusion as to how to validate our newly bought metro tickets, we hopped on to Budapest's underground.

Both trains and trams really look like toys - it's very cute. And they're both yellow - double cute.

We headed to Heroes' Square (Hősök tere) and as soon as we came out of the station we like "Wow". The scale of these statues is like, unbelievable and it's hard to capture the scale of it on camera. It's hard to fit all of it into one photograph - it's huge. But it's beautiful, and by this time it was dark so everything was lit up and, although I've said it way too many times already, it looked so pretty.

Heroes' Square, Budapest

After this, we walked past a lake behind the statues which looked exactly like a Lowry painting - no joke and made our way to Széchenyi Medicinal Bath (Széchenyi-gyógyfürdő). This is the largest medicinal bath in Europe and you'll probably see it in everyone's snaps from Budapest. I wasn't up to actually going in the baths whilst we were there, but Lucy went in and had a fab time. If you need rejuvenating, this is the place to go.

Ice Skating in Budapest

Finally, don't worry the end of the post is near, we went downtown to Spíler, this is near all the ruin pubs. It was super cute here (a tiny bit cold but they do provide blankets) and very red - my fave colour of the moment. Lucy and I drank a lot of cocktails here because we had to try as many as possible right? We shared some chicken wings to start which were coated with a really sweet sauce. Tbh I'm not usually a fan but this changed me and now I want them again. Right now. 

Dinner on the last night

Lucy then had a Hungarian pizza for main, and I had Chicken Paprikash with buttered Spaetzle - that's chicken in a sauce with these noodle/pasta things. The texture is really hard to describe but the whole meal was lovely. It was more make us feel good comfort food and I was stuffed by the end of it.

The waiters here were also top notch, full of bants.

That night we went back to the apartment and drank the rest of our cider and got very merry. If you're on holiday, you gotta do it! Then the next morning we headed to the airport after a fleeting visit to Parliment (which was very pretty but so, so, so cold because I was wearing a jumper with holes in. Do not make the same mistakes as me)

Honestly, I have rambled on way too much and I'm pretty sure no one will scroll this far down but YOLO sometimes you just gotta write stuff like this down ya know. For the memories. Whilst I was in Budapest I couldn't really tell if I liked it or not, I've never been to that part of the world before so it was very different to what I'm used to, however now I'm home and have poured my heart and soul into this post - I think it's clear I enjoyed it. I think I'll go back someday.

If you got this far, THANK YOU. Mad respect, you have the patience of a saint.

Pillow Talk

Hello you, 

It's Sunday morning, it's mighty cold, but chances are you're still wrapped up in the best place on earth. Bed! 

This weekend I'm lucky enough to be spending my Sunday morning in the heart of Budapest with one of my besties. It’s actually just started snowing and I’m so excited! We're just here for a short break but it certainly makes a nice change to normal. I also don't think I've been away EVER in December before so it's pretty rad seeing another city abroad in the lead up to Chrimbo. Today's our last full day before going home so we're going to make the most of it. Check out my Insta to see what we get up to. 

So, if you caught my Unattainable Expectations post last week you'll know that I've been a bit of a blogging funk. I had it all 'together' at the start of the summer, and then, well I just didn't. I've been going back and fourth in my mind on how I want to write up content like this. See, I want to share with you what I've been reading, what I've been listening to. I want to have a good old natter on the interwebs with like-minded folk whilst keeping it nice and low key. It is Sunday after all. 

And so this idea was born. Pillow Talk. I'm going to try making this a weekly thang where we can have a good old chinwag on what's been going on, and I can share with you the content I've been loving this week. It's nice to share the love isn't it? 

I love reading other posts like this so I thought what the heck, lemme put my own spin on it! Grab yourself a hot choc or a cuppa and let's get going. 

Posts that have stuck with me: 

Firstly the lovely Emma Gannon, always speaking the truth, Emma discusses emotional click bait. This caught my attention and has stuck with me since, as she puts it "Right now, it's kind of weirdly normal to sell your life online". And isn't it true! Linking into my post last week, this got me thinking about how there's this expectation to be online and reveal all of our deepest secrets to the world. Is this right? What's the implications of this in the future. It's a bit of a scary thought, isn't it? 

Why are people so rude? Chloe struck a chord with me the other day in her "Why Can't People Say Please Online? (Stop Being A Dick)" post, and it's something I'm finding myself getting more and more irritated by as time goes on, irl and online. Unfortunately it seems that manners aren't in fashion as of late as many are forgetting their Ps and Qs. Chloe touches on the demanding and somewhat rude messages she gets on the daily and it just makes me sad that people are like this. There's a human a the receiving end of comments and I think we can all take a minute to remember this. As my mum would say 'treat others how you want to be treated'. 

Finally, I gotta admit I've fallen head over heels in love for my current gal crush Megan Ellaby. I'm fairly new to Megan's content and boy have I been missing out! I came across this post the other day (and lots more to be honest - totally stalking the archives) about self confidence and all I can say is SLAY.

Number 1. The photographs from this shoot are stunning, like seriously girl you're smashing it. But if not more importantly, the message behind this post is legit. Self confidence is something we all battle with, I'm sure, and it's so refreshing to see that everyone, no matter how confident they might appear, can also have 'normal' struggles. What the hell do I mean? It's all about this culture of being online, and all appearing to have our shit together all of the time. Bit of a recurring theme today isn't it? Lol. It's important to realise that we've all got our strong points and we've all got our insecurities, but we can all help to lift each other up.

This post really resonated with me as lately I've been trying real hard at the gym and I think finally I'm feeling 'my best self'. I dunno, I've started rambling to be honest but I found Megan's words really motivating and it gave me that feel good factor. Go read it, she explains it much better than me! 

Easy Listening: 

I don't stay as up to date with the YouTube community as I used to, but I have been loving Marcus Butler's Lower Your Expectations podcast as of late. Okay, so does anyone have this thing where when you start a new pod you have to listen from ep 1? Even if that was like 2 years ago? I do this, so I'm actually still quite a few episodes behind (currently on ep 29) but it's a refreshing, laid back listen with some laughs between Marcus and Matt thrown in for good measure. I like the fact that we hear more about the behind the scenes aspects of YouTube in this pod. I find a lot of the old Brit Crew cater for a younger audience on their channels, so this is a nice way to hear about it, adult to adult.

Instas I've been swooning over:  

Ngl, if you follow me on Insta you'll have notice that I've fallen back in love with my bullet journal in the last week or so. Yep, expect me to post about it a lot more than usual. Soz. Why? Well, I'd been experimenting month after month with washi tape, different colours, different designs, but I just wasn't happy with it - there was too much going on! I've decided to take it back to basics this December and go with a much more minimalist look and design and gal, I'm loving it.

I've been swooning over @minimalistbujo on Insta which is actually a pretty great account where lots more minimalist loving bujo junkies are regularly featured. It was here I stumbled across @wezz.bujo and got inspo for my monthly spread - something I'd fallen out of love with the last couple of months, but I'm now very much back in love. That kicked everything off really, and now I'm in a minimalist heaven in my journal. I've said that word so many times in the last few minutes it's gone weird when I say it now. Haha! 

Well I've rambled on a little more than I intended to (oops) but I hope you've enjoyed your Sunday slumber whilst reading this. Do give the humans I've mentioned some love and check out their work, and with that, I'll leave you to enjoy your Sunday.